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no don't not say not don't no.

at work, there's a small room where the caffeine and snacks and such are located, and on one wall there's a poster board where people post adverts or flyers or interesting articles.

one of the articles posted generated a strong enough reaction from me when i read it that i thought it deserved an lj post both here and on The Study (so sorry for you who are a part of thestudy, this will be cross-posted).

the article is called "Don't Read This Article: Understanding the significance of your words."

Words are everywhere. We speak them, read them, write them, think them, see them, type them, and hear them in our head. The words we think and use generate the vibration we send out. The word "homework" can cause some people to have a negative vibration and others to have a positive vibration. The word "money" can hold a positive vibration for some people and a negative vibration for others.

Don't, Not and No

Don't think of the Statue of Liberty in New York. I know that you know that i know that you just did! Your u nconscious and conscious mind automatically filters out the words don't, not, and no. When you use these words you are actually internalizing in your mind the exact thing you are being told not to. For example, if i said, "Do not think of a snowstorm," I guarnatee you would start thinking of a snowstorm almost immediately. Even though the instruction was not to do something, your unconscious and conscious mind edited out that part of the instruction.

There are other common expressions that give more attention and energy to what you don't want. Have you heard yourself use any of these statements?

  • Don't get mad
  • I'm not blaming
  • Don't hesitate to call me
  • Don't be fooled
  • Don't worry
  • I don't want this to hurt
  • Don't litter
  • Don't smoke
  • I'm not judging
  • Don't panic
  • No rush, no worry
  • Don't look now
  • Don't run with scissors
  • Don't forget
  • I don't want my clients to cancel
  • Don't be late
  • Don't slam the door

The law of attraction responds the same way your mind does: it hears what you don't want. When you hear yourself make a statement containing the words don't, not, or no, you are actually giving attention and energy to what you don't want.

Here's an effective and easy tool that will help you reduce and eventually eliminate the use of the words don't, not, and no from your vocabulary. Each time you hear yourself using these words, ask yourself, "So, what do i want?"

Each time you talk about what you don't want, in that moment you ar giving it your attention and energy. When you ask yourself what you do want, the answer will have created a new sentence with new words. When your words change, your vibration changes and the best news of all is that you can only send out one vibration at a time.

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Now here's why i think the article is a load of bollocks.

First off, i'll grant that the concept he introduces exists more commonly than people think, albeit with exceptions such as myself. i've done this exercise in college, where in a psych class a prof told the class as an exercise, 'don't think of a flying pink elephant." And i remember acknowledging this in my head as a mental shrug and "sure," and i immediately started to think about something else. i think i started running through a piece of music that i had stuck in my head, and i occupied myself with that until the prof said, "okay, raise your hand if you *didn't* think of a flying pink elephant". i was mystified when out of a class of about 30 only two other people than me put their hands up.

that being said, how the author then applies this basic concept to the rest of his article is suspect. sure, i'm familiar with the idea of someone using the words "now... don't get mad" as a personal preemptive defense against a situation where they know someone will get mad. and let's face it: any kind of anti-smoking advert makes me want to light up despite the fact that i don't really have any desire to smoke nor is it good for my asthmatic history.

But the author's use of a few other examples shows where his concept generally only applies to a basic level of commmunication that most people have to (and generally do) rise above in order for it to be practical.

the easiest example he used was "don't run with scissors." is saying that phrase going to conjure up a vision of someone running with a pair of scissors? maybe. but the question is, does it matter? or even a step further, isn't that the point? this situation calls for a specific warning. the challenge with coming up with a "positive vibration" version of this is that it's damned near impossible to do so and get your specific point across and with proper emphasis. Be safe with that pair of scissors. Okay, what constitutes safe versus unsafe? saying "walk with the scissors" doesn't make it clear that doing some other action with the scissors is more hazardous.

for things with deeper meaning but straightforward intent, the need to put a "positive vibration" on words can turn float into the dnagerous territory of poor communication and passive-aggressiveness. if, for example, i'm starting to feel enamored enough with my partner that i'm hopeful that we'll get married, i'd rather her be direct with me and say, "i'm not ready for marriage yet" than say something ambgious or not say anything at all. without that sort of clarity of communication, how long could i be under a false impression, start shopping for a ring, start fantasizing about a wedding, a house, etc. before i found out, oh wait... she doesn't want to get married. oops.

these examples are easy, so let's up the stakes a little, take something like "i'm not judging you." The reason that we hit murkiness here is that a statement like that as "words" has a potential for multiple meanings or intents depending on the context of the situation and the speaker. coming from the mouth of someone who is materialistic or is obviously locked into a particular perpsective, those words will most likely be correctly interpreted as shallow. but coming from me, those words are typically supposed to be meant as reassurance, a more firm and specific version of "it's okay."

the idea that words are just a means to express intent is really the key factor here. To take even the most seemingly incriminating "negative vibration" statement and not attempt to look deeper at the intent of what's being said seems to be not the fault of the person speaking but of the person who hears the words but doesn't attempt true comprehension. If i say the words, "don't hesitate to call me if you need me" to someone and that someone spins such a yarn of deep intent and meaning and "what is he *really* trying to say with his 'negative vibration'?" and concludes and then says, "you don't really want me to call, do you?" i'll roll my eyes and slap said someone on the head for being a dumbass.

that's not to say that there aren't certain negativities that shouldn't be avoided. *pause for effect...* it's just that actual positive versus negative communication doesn't have a universal rule you can apply like saying, "never use the words..." without the basic structure of language completely falling apart.

i'll conclude with this parpticualr thought: imagine if the Doctor had to come up with a way to tell Sally how to deal with the weeping angels in a way other than [Don't Blink]. (spoilers for series 3)

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sleeplessone
Sep. 17th, 2007 08:39 am (UTC)
i'll conclude with this parpticualr thought: imagine if the Doctor had to come up with a way to tell Sally how to deal with the weeping angels in a way other than [Don't Blink]. (spoilers for series 3)I really should watch that series. :)
sleeplessone
Sep. 17th, 2007 08:11 pm (UTC)
Also from what I read, this is a "stand alone" episode? Meaning you don't have to have followed the series to get what goes on in it?
lifeofmendel
Sep. 17th, 2007 08:14 pm (UTC)
correct.

and it's one of the best episodes of the new series ever, so yeah. watch it. :)
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