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ten day meme: day three

continuing the ten day meme that i ganked from xtingu.

Day One
Day Two
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever).
Day Seven: Four things you want in a romantic partner.
Day Eight: Three of your favorite possessions.
Day Nine: Two images that describe your life or yourself right now.
Day Ten: One confession


1. flash me the sort of smile that makes me blush.

2. have a passion for life and approach your life journey as a constant state of development, learning, and wonder.

3. be unafraid to do things that make you happy even if it makes you look somewhat ridiculous.

4. there's a mode i get in that most people i know call Provider Mode. It's when one of my friends is having a hard time, and i go out of my way to give them support, guidance, whatever it is that they need. When i'm in that mode, all of my energy is so focused on that person and i want them to focus on themselves too, but every now and again, the other person suddenly kicks back a very genuine "and how are you doing?" in a nice but firm and persistent way that makes it impossible for me to deflect. it throws me way the fuck off, disarms me, and makes me melt.

5. be better than me in something that i'm good at, optionally have something that you're good at that i'm better than you in, and have that be more of a giggly thing than anything else.

6. i can be difficult to take care of because i generally feel self-conscious about sharing when i need support about anything. understand me well enough to be able to read that and make me feel comfortable knowing that i have your support and that it's not a burden.

7. have an understanding of and be willing to explore the concept of sex and sexuality as a creative form of art and all that that implies both physically and emotionally.

8. have a passion for steven brust or jim butcher.


right now the fingernails on my left hand are quite a bit longer than the fingernails on my right. i'm not sure how that happened, but i think it's time to remedy that situation.


Feb. 14th, 2011 02:02 am (UTC)
I love how the first two words of "how to win your heart" are "flash me". I should have stopped reading there.

I don't know about number five. I've always thought that's something I'd like, maybe because of the bond or how it would challenge me, but I don't know how I'd actually react in the situation.
Feb. 14th, 2011 02:44 am (UTC)
i don't have any real pride issues when it comes to what it is that i'm talented at. so long as the other person isn't being an arsehole, i'm good with competing just for fun, and i like it sometimes when someone who used to be worse than me surpasses me.

the caveat of it being giggly is about that, the understanding that it doesn't really matter. the moment that sort of thing matters to either party is when it falls apart, and the action to take is to do your best to release the part of you that thinks it matters.
Feb. 14th, 2011 03:03 am (UTC)
I like to think it wouldn't matter to me and that I could find the fun of it, I just don't know myself well enough.

Also, I'm sure there would be a big difference in how I handled it if it was just something I'm kind of good at (like math or video games) instead of something I've been really good at for a long time (like programming).

And some things are a lot more fun when I'm not always the best. I like it when Laurel beats me at darts.
Feb. 14th, 2011 03:59 am (UTC)
it's true that i've never been put to the test in a whole lot of things, but i think that even if instinctually i have a more negative response, i could do okay at working through that and finding peace with it in the long run. we'll see - it's not like i'm in the market for a long-term partnership with anyone at the moment, so it's moot until i get to that space. :)


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