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birtthday 2015

it was six years ago that i unveiled my birthday date after roughly 20 or so years of keeping it a tightly-held secret. The reason why i kept a secret and why i stopped is outlined in this livejournal entry of 2008.

When i turned 35 in 2010, i gave an open-invitation to have anyone and everyone come visit me in New Orleans for a party. I'd say that roughly 10 or so out-of-towners ended up coming - less than what i wanted, but i discovered that aside from it being a difficult time for people who were educators or workers to jet out of town, it was difficult for people to justify the cost and/or time-off of taking a trip like that in a context that wasn't a wedding or a funeral because it doesn't come across as being as important or as momentous.

Any time that i travel, it's typically to see people as opposed to seeing places. I have so many people scattered through the US and a few international that i care about pretty deeply and i make it a point to try to see as many of those people as i can within a reasonable budget. When i go home for the holidays, i typically go for a week and a half to two weeks, and my days quickly fill up with all of the people that not only are willing to see me but want to see me. More and more those times are becoming important to me.

So i've started this grand scheme for my 40th birthday in 2015 to do a multi-city traveling tour in late may after school ends, basically try to host venue-parties in a few major cities, maybe visit a fringe city or two, and invite everyone who is local to that area. Kind of like a hybrid of what i tried to do for my 35th and what i *do* do for my travel - create a conduit and a context in which i can bring people together for good food and good drink either in a one-on-one context or a group context and just see what happens.

in my head, there are a few key places that are a must - doing a crawfish boil here in New Orleans will happen around my actual birthday time in April. When i do the tour in May, i want to have one party in the philadelphia area, one party in the portland area, and one party in the SF Bay area. And i want to do it Right - rent a venue or find a park, hire a caterer or something similar, maybe have a band or a DJ play.

I also kind of want to take a visit to Cincinnati and Chicago. *and* i want to take a trip to Alaska so that i can finally say that i've set foot in all 50 of the United States.

A lot of the scale of this will depend largely on the budget. I don't want to charge anyone for this, although i'm not opposed to taking money as birthday gifts that will basically go back and fund the trips. But i know that i could easily spend way too much money for this sort of thing even if i limit it to Philly/Portland/SF.

But we'll see what happens. Some time in the next few weeks i'm going to put feelers out there to see if it's something that people would be interested in and what the possibilities are for venues that would be affordable but still good for what i want.


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Apr. 22nd, 2014 09:54 pm (UTC)
that sounds so awesome! I love this idea and now I wanna do something similar for a future birthday. Maybe my 35th ;-)
Apr. 27th, 2014 06:02 am (UTC)
How exciting! I'm sort of in the events planning side of things (though on the corporate side), let me know if you need recs for caterers for SF.
Apr. 28th, 2014 03:27 pm (UTC)
i will definitely keep that in mind. thanks. :)
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